When I look at my life over the past twenty-two years as a wife and mother, I see numerous ways in which the Lord has refined and chiseled me. I grew up an only child. Didn’t have to share, didn’t have to wait for the bathroom, had little infringement of my time and space. Add that reality to my sin nature, and I was a selfish mess. Oh, the plans the Lord had for me as I embarked on life with a husband and children. And yes, I may have whined in the process. Literally.
But one of the biggest areas in need of chiseling has surely been my tongue. I’m a talker. From kindergarten, the main feedback my mother received about me was that I talked too much. Talking serves one well in the dating phase, when much of the talk is get-to-know-you and dreams of the future.
But when you’re living that future—with all of its test and trials and the flesh of four people under one roof—there’s a temptation daily to say more than need be said. And while the Lord has worked with me (read: convicted me) on word choice, tone, and even the timing of my words, one of my biggest lessons has been to simply keep quiet.
And here’s the tough part—not only outwardly, but inwardly . . . because I can shoot off lots of words in my head, and I found out that’s not pleasing to God either.
When I follow the prompting of the Holy Spirit to keep quiet, I’m amazed by the ministry that takes place. Grace overtakes the situation. I find myself praying when I would have been talking. I see attitudes diffused in my precious teens. I see hearts softened and turned. I’m awed as peace descends.
But the ministry in keeping quiet extends well beyond home and family life. Wherever we find ourselves in conversation, our heart’s desire should be this—“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my rock and my Redeemer” (Psalm 19:14). If at any given moment the Lord lets us know that our silence is what is acceptable, by His grace, we need to offer that. And in doing so, blessings abound.
In this week’s video, I share eight blessings in keeping quiet. I’m far from a pro at this, but I can attest to having had lots of practice. How about you? Have you seen blessings in the times you’ve kept quiet?