I remember the early days of parenting, when we had new babies and fresh dreams about what their lives would be like. Neither my husband nor I were raised in a Christian home, so we were eager. Eager to plant. We would teach our children about Jesus, give them a solid foundation in the truths of the Bible, and guide them as they got older in applying those truths to their lives. And all those seeds? They would grow into a beautiful and bountiful harvest in their lives, to the glory of God.
Those babies are now eighteen and sixteen, and I have to be honest—there are days I am heartbroken and discouraged as a parent. There are days I see and hear things and wonder, what in the world? because that’s not the harvest I envisioned. In fact, it would have been nice to be able to control the harvest. I would have had it blossom early, in concrete ways, right before my eyes. And I would have had it blossom sure and strong, such that my children would walk solidly in every bit of truth and wisdom they’ve been taught. I know… Some of you with adult children are saying, Dear one, if it only worked that way…. And it’s not that I ever thought it worked that way. But when the pain hits and the tears flow, I confess I wish it worked that way.
But although I can’t control the harvest, I’m grateful to know the one who does. I’m grateful that He loves my children more than I do, and knows them intimately better than I do. This is where I stand in faith that prayers truly do avail much. This is where I trust as never before, that He will lead them in the way that they should go. After all, if He could take me, a 27 year old who didn’t know Him and had never opened a Bible—and do a radical work of transformation, what could He do with all those seeds planted in my children’s lives?
So, I’m focusing on seeds today. We can’t control the harvest, but we can purpose to plant the seeds. In fact, we are called by God to plant seeds of life and wisdom into our children (Ephesian 6:4; Proverbs 22:6). And we can rejoice in the fact that He will bless us for our faithfulness as we do so.
In the video this week, I share “7 Things I Teach my Teen Daughter.” It’s not comprehensive, of course. And certainly, her dad has been a big part of teaching her as well. But there’s something about those mother/daughter conversations, and these are a sampling of things that have mostly come out of our mother/daughter time together.
By the way, I share the things I’ve shared in this post, not to be a downer, but to keep it real in this social media age of “only show & tell the good stuff” (I touch on this in the video). There are days when I’m discouraged, but there are also plenty of days of fun, laughter, and great conversation with these kiddos. In fact, my daughter and I had a lot of fun even in this video! ;-)
I’m guessing others of you have trying days from time to time as a parent. Do you place your faith and trust in God for the care and direction of your children?