IMAGE (pt. 3): Release the Need for Approval
We live in an age of “likes” and comments. Go to almost any site—news, clothing, books, sporting goods, you name it—and you’ll have the opportunity to “approve” of what’s there. On Facebook, which popularized the phenomenon, most of the interaction is based on whether you “like” a photo, link, or words strung together in a post. And if you’re the one who posted the photo, link, or words, you await . . . “approval.”
Not all of you are on Facebook, but I mention it because it’s a microcosm of the world at large. The system would’ve never worked if people didn’t feel the need to express thoughts and opinions—and a need to be affirmed by others.
How do we operate in such a comment-rich world . . . where the comment may be negative and aimed at you? In the past two weeks, many of you shared about such negative comments, some of which stuck for decades. It’s understandable. At the base of those comments is the sentiment, “I don’t approve.” Who wants to feel that people don’t “approve” of a fundamental aspect of your outward appearance?
But we can’t live and move at the whim of people’s “approval.” Our days shouldn’t rise or fall based on what they like or don’t like about how we look. We can be free. We can gain a godly confidence in how God made us and release the need for affirmation. After all, we have all the affirmation we need, in Christ.
You can watch the video HERE (or below online). Once you’ve watched, here are a few starter questions to think about and discuss:
If you’re honest with yourself, do you tend to need the approval of others?
Which are you prone to do if you get a negative comment: 1) shake it off and keep moving; or 2) take it in your heart and turn it over a million times.
Do you fear being divinely unique?