He stayed home when he should’ve been leading his troops in battle. That was the first wrong move, not being where he should’ve been. Instead of intense fighting on the battlefield—instead of running his race—King David was idling on the sidelines, walking along the rooftop . . . and then, gazing at a beautiful woman bathing.
What did he do next? This is, after all, the man who famously trusted God when all Israel feared, who killed Goliath after letting him know, “the battle is the LORD’s” (1 Samuel 17:46-47). This is the man who refused to kill King Saul, though Saul was seeking to kill him—whose conscience was so tender that it bothered him just to cut off the edge of Saul’s robe (1 Samuel 24:4-6).
So when the battle raged in David’s flesh, did he look to God to fight it? When he learned that the woman was married to his own soldier, was his conscience tender? Did he flee immorality as Joseph did with Potiphar’s wife?
No. King David sent for the woman, Bathsheba, and slept with her. And when she became pregnant and he couldn’t cover the sin, he compounded it by having her husband, Uriah, killed in battle. He then took her as his own wife, and she bore him a son.
Perhaps at this point they appeared to be the picture-perfect family—the King, his beautiful wife, and their newborn. Since several months had passed, maybe there would be no repercussion for sin. But God is not mocked. He saw it all, and “the thing that David had done was evil in the sight of the LORD” (2 Samuel 11:27). God confronted David through His prophet, Nathan. I’m struck by the clear heart of God in these words:
“Why have you despised the word of the LORD by doing evil in His sight?” 2 Samuel 12:9
“. . .you have despised Me . . .” 2 Samuel 12:10
Stop and think: Have we focused so much on the grace of God that we’ve forgotten His view of sin? Can you imagine God feeling that you have despised Him because of your sin?
David’s heart turned when he heard God’s words. He said, “I have sinned against the LORD,” and immediately, the prophet conveyed this gracious message: “The LORD also has taken away your sin . . .” (2 Sam. 12:13). David was forgiven, but he and his family suffered severe consequences for years to come.
Read 2 Samuel 11 and 2 Samuel 12:1-25 for more detail of the above account.
Interestingly, it was King Solomon, son of David and Bathsheba, who later shared God’s wisdom and strong caution about the “adulteress.” Read Proverbs 5:1-23 and Proverbs 7:7-27.
Stop and think: How does adultery appear at first? What is its end?
If you’re on the path that leads to adultery, get off now. Flee. It is a path that leads to death. If you’re in an adulterous affair, get out now.
It’s not easy to throw aside the weight of sexual sin. Comments from this week and last have been illuminating as blog sisters have openly shared the difficulty of breaking free. One sister described sexual sin as being under the influence. There’s no 12-step program, but as always, the Bible lights the way:
- Read Psalm 51 (penned by David after his adultery). Own the sin as David did. Ask the Lord to give you a godly sorrow that leads to repentance. Pray as David did that God would create in you a clean heart.
- Flee—cut ties, giving no opportunity for your flesh to creep back;
- Confess your sin to someone you trust and ask for prayer and accountability;
- Immerse yourself in the Word daily; carry verses with you on post-it notes or index cards; get aggressive with renewing your mind.
God forgives, heals, and restores those who have been entangled in adultery. Faithful and Cherished dealt with this important truth. (The video on my Home page with Da’ T.R.U.T.H. and his wife are a beautiful example of such healing and restoration.) If you’ve repented and turned from that sin, don’t allow the enemy to weigh you down in shame. Run the race with endurance and don’t look back.
Single women: I’ve focused thus far on adultery, but sex between singles is sin as well. In our day, celibacy is seen as weird. Tim Tebow has been openly mocked for his conviction to abstain. But the Word of God requires no less.
Read 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 and 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6.
If you are single and having sex, you are not in hot pursuit of Christ.
Hebrews 12:1 tells us to lay aside the weight and the sin so we can then “run with endurance.” Again, it’s not easy, especially if that’s the lifestyle you’ve been living. But God doesn’t issue commands in the hope that we’ll muster up the strength to obey them. If you’re a believer, He has given you His Spirit to empower you to run with supernatural strength. So throw off that weight and run with power.
There’s so much more I could say, but I know we will go wider and deeper in the comment section as we’ve been doing. I’m already praying for God to minister to us there. So let’s continue the dialogue.