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Thankful…Year in Review

December 29, 2011

North Shore of O'ahu

In this last week of 2011, I’m thinking about the year, and my mind is tempted to focus on the disappointments.  In early 2011, I was scheduled to speak with Women of Faith in 14 cities, including my hometown, Washington D.C., and several other east coast cities.  I was pumped because many friends and family members were planning to come, and I’d be able to see them.  But as it turned out, I only spoke twice—in Des Moines and Columbus—and had to tell my east coast friends that I wouldn’t be speaking in their cities.  I was no longer with Women of Faith.

Another great opportunity came my way in the spring, brought by my publishing team.  I worked for two or three months on the first few chapters of a novel for a proposed new series that we were excited about.  But ultimately, we didn’t get the approval we needed.  The great opportunity fell by the wayside, and I had to rework the novel entirely, under deadline.

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg of where I could go when I think through the disappointments of the year, and it doesn’t touch on issues that affected my family.  But I refuse to allow those things to define my year.  I choose to define my year by God’s goodness and faithfulness.

In those disappointments—both personal and professional—He took me to deeper levels of trust and humility.  He clarified my priorities and His purpose.  He revealed the relationships that were true and ones that weren’t.  And He gave me you.  You have encouraged, comforted, prayed, laughed, cried, and everything in-between on this blog—and not just with me, but with one another.  My heart overflows with thanksgiving as I think through this year, and you’re a big reason why.

I’m also thankful about where I was able to think through the year—Hawaii.  Many of you know that one of my absolute favorite things is talking to God against the backdrop of ocean and mountains.  So I can’t thank God enough for the blessing of spending such special time with Him and with my family as I put my year in perspective and prayed about the next.

I’m praying for all of you too, a prayer that’s been on my heart from Philippians 1:9-11:

And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in real knowledge and discernment, so that you may approve the things that are excellent, in order to be sincere and blameless until the day of Christ; having been filled with the fruit of righteousness which comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.

Have you put your year in perspective through God’s eyes?  What are you thankful for about 2011?

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  • Reply Debbie December 30, 2011 at 5:50 am

    Happy New Year, Kim and may you have one that is blessed beyond measure by out wonderful God — and may you recognize His gracious hand in it. May He establish the work of your hands and may you know His joy every moment regardless of what is happening in that moment.

    As I look at your questions I realize that I haven’t even thought about this past year…I am,however, waiting to see what I thought was a promise at the beginning of last year (Forget the former things.Do not dwell on the past. Behold I begin a new thing.Now it begins to happen! Isaiah 43:18,19a) fulfilled. It may be that I need to remember that this “new thing” is to be perceived by faith, not sight and that it has begun but not finished and that my “understanding” of things is not to be according to “my understanding”. However, I KNOW that our God “is the rock, His works are perfect. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just in all His ways.” Deut.32:4. … “No word from God will ever fail” (Luke 1:37 NIV2010).

    What am I thankful for in 2011? I am thankful that I have a God who is faithful, who loves me and sustains me and has a purpose in all things that touch me (and those I love) and that His purpose is good and perfect and that He loves me. And I am thankful that as we end this year He has been making that known deep down in my heart and mind. I am so grateful that I am His. Without Him, I am lost.

    I am so glad that I got to “know” you this year, Kim. I am looking forward to getting to know you even better this year. As we end this year and enter the new, be assured that I will continue to uphold you in prayer to our good and faithful God.

    Hugs,hugs,hugs. Debbie

    • Reply Debbie December 30, 2011 at 5:51 am

      How silly of me…I forgot to wish all my sisters on this blog “Happy New Year. Have a God filled 2012 and may you all sense his presence in a special way.”

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate December 30, 2011 at 4:01 pm

      Happy New Year, Debbie! I so know what it’s like to have a word for God and to be in the mode of waiting to see it fulfilled. We learn so much in the waiting. And I love your insight that the “new thing” may have begun, although it is not finished, and that our “understanding” of things is not always the “understanding.” :) But praise be to God that there’s so much we can hang onto NOW. So many promises such as the ones you gave. That God is FAITHFUL is huge in itself! Thanking Him with you for His faithfulness to you in 2011. “I am so grateful that I am His”…amen, sister! I’m glad I got to know you too, Debbie! Thank you for your faithfulness in praying for me and for always having a word from above. Hugs, hugs, hugs to you too! xoxo

    • Reply Kristian December 30, 2011 at 7:17 pm

      Oh Debbie, Dear Sister, I know where you’re at, trust me. I thought the same thing about lsat year and thinking that the promise that I was waiting on would surely come this year. BUT that thing you wrote about the “new thing” being perceived and received by faith, is sooooo good revelation to me. Such a Rhema word! Love it Much!!! Happy New Years to you tooo…..Smiles, Hugs and Much Love!

      • Reply Debbie December 31, 2011 at 5:23 pm

        Thank you for the encouragement Kristian for the encouragement! I keep learning that God is God and that He is so much more qualified for the job :0) . Lately God keeps bringing this to mind: “Great is the Lord and mighty in power. His understanding has no limit.” (Psalm 147:5) the word “understanding” refers to both wisdom and knowledge. Our God is great and able to do ALL things…but His knowledge of every little detail and fact regarding our situation and circumstances (and those of the ones we love) and his wisdom in responding and working in them is without limit. I am learning (and thank God, He is patient with me) to trust in that.

        Be blessed with great trust in Him this year Kristian…we are so blessed to have a God who is worthy! Whooot!!!
        Hugs back!

        • Reply Debbie December 31, 2011 at 5:23 pm

          There I go again, not proof reading. sheesh…gonna work on that :0)

  • Reply Tamara D. Davis December 30, 2011 at 7:46 am

    Good morning! 2011 was a year of growth and instruction for me. I am thankful for God and His word, for teachers and a heart to grow. I never want to leave a year the same way I entered it. I am thankful for the new connections with women of God all around the U.S. that have a sincere heart for God. I’m excited about my life and that of my family in 2012 as I seek to grow closer and closer to God and my babies.

    I thank God for the sandpaper people who came into my life and how God used them to mature me. Yes, He’s faithful. I am SO extremely thankful for my pastor and all of his dedication to our ministry. He encouraged me to confront fear head on so that I conquer it in ALL areas of my life. Fear in any area is bondage and Christ came so that I can live FREELY. I am being perfected in love and I am SO thankful for that.

    I am thankful for a phenomenal year in my phenomenal life lead by a phenomenal God!

    PS. I am thankful for Thankful Friday because a sister was having blog withdrawal this week!

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate December 30, 2011 at 4:07 pm

      Happy New Year, Tamara! Wow…your “thank you’s” got me excited! Amen to “never want to leave a year the same way I entered it!” That’s similar to something I’ve been praying….not wanting to drag any “stuff” into the new year that needs to be left in THIS year. Like you, I’m so thankful for God and His word, for growth, and for new connections. “Sandpaper people”…ha…never a shortage of those, are there? :) But so glad God teaches us and matures us when we encounter them. Praising God with you for your pastor helping you to confront fear and conquer it!!!! “I am being perfected in love and I am SO thankful for that”…woohoo!! That’s exciting! What an end-of-the-year testimony to our faithful God! And I know, it was weird not “talking” to you all this week because of vacation. I had actually planned to take the whole week off, then the Holy Spirit reminded me that this is the last Friday of the year, and we HAD to give thanks for the year. :) Thank you for being a LIGHT and JOY in this blog family!

      • Reply Tamara Davis December 30, 2011 at 10:07 pm

        It is my pleasure and honor to be a part of this blog family. I enjoy it so much, especially when we have “chuch” (left out the “r” on purpose LOL) while you’re away. Prayerfully the Color Me Retreat will be the same! I am SO looking forward to 2012 for all the beautiful things in store for us.

  • Reply Megan December 30, 2011 at 8:47 am

    I am thankful that you were on the Women of Faith speaking team for the time that you were. I probably wouldn’t found your blog, which has challenged me and stretched me to think outside of my comfort zone. Thank you and Happy New Year to you and your family!

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate December 30, 2011 at 4:10 pm

      Megan, that truly touches me, as it reinforces that God did use my time there. He has a purpose in everything. Though the season was shorter than I anticipated, it was exactly according to His plan. So thankful that God used that to connect us. And I’m especially thankful that this blog has challenged and stretched you. :) Praise God! Happy New Year to you, Megan!

  • Reply Kristian December 30, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    Thank God, to Kim, the blog is back……..Yayyyyyyyy! I have checked almost every hour of every day since our last Christmas Blog. I was having some serious withdrawls too Tamara. Lol. Oh Kim, God is funny. Having me to send you that email about warfare and issues and you telling us just a tip of what you have went through. In my heart of hearts I want to tell you I’m so sorry, and it hurts me so bad to hear how you were treated. But in reality I’m thankful for that in your life. I know it might sound crazy, but I’m learning something. If we don’t have issues, warfare and persecution we would have no reason to press in to God, and then he would have no reason to transform us. We would be the same person year in and year out, without any issues or any pain. So Kim, Sister I’m praising God not only because you went through, but because HE brought you through and is bringing you to a new land, a land flowing with milk and honey. Do not rem the former things, for he is doing a new thing. Ooooh Praise God!!!! Hallelujah!

    Me, let’s see. I’m thankful for a sound-minded, prophetic spiritual mother. Today was my last day receiving wise counsel from her. The Lord showed both of us, that in 2012 it would just be me and him, and she would have to release me to him. I’m sad, but yet excited. I’m thankful for 2 awesome part-time jobs worknig with kids who I love. I’m thankful for this amazing blog community of family I have to lean on, pray for me, encourage me and support me. I’m thankful for you Kim, and for your endurance. You are soooo my role model. :) I am mostly thankful for a God who loves me just the way I am but loves me so much to not let me stay just the way I am…..Happy Blessed Proseperous New Year of 2012. Love you sisters!!!!!

    • Reply Tamara Davis December 30, 2011 at 10:09 pm


    • Reply Kim Cash Tate December 31, 2011 at 12:11 am

      Kristian, I’m just blown away that you were checking the blog for a new post! That made me smile, and I thank God. :) Yes, God is definitely funny with you sending that email. When I read it, I knew God had to have given you discernment. I know I’m transparent here, but there’s a lot I just don’t/can’t talk about. So your prayers mean more than you know. And I totally know what you’re saying about trials causing us to press in to God. I’m like you…my first reaction is to say I’m sorry that people are going through things, but at the same time, I know God is using it to transform us. “We would be the same person year in and year out, without any issues or any pain”…love the way you put that! Thank you so, so much for your encouragement, dear sister. :) And what a praise about your mom! It’s a blessing to have such a mom, and wow…for her to be willing to release you to the Lord in that way. This next year will be a year of tremendous spiritual growth for you. I can’t wait to see what God does in your life and heart. Thanking God for all the things He’s doing in your life, and that you’re a part of this blog family. Love you too, sis!

      • Reply Kristian December 31, 2011 at 12:26 am

        Kim! So excited that you responded so quickly. And Oh, I love that fact that you were in Hawaii while posting, I hope to be there one day. That’s my dream place! *And I guess I mis-posted, but my “spiritual mother” is actually a mentor of mine, not my real mother. But my real mom flows in the prophetic too and is just as awesome…. I’m so excited for you too for next year. 2012 is your year girl, I just know it! I’m claiming it as mines too and receive it in Jesus name. And I know there are certain thinghs you cannot post, that’s why God gave us discernment. Ahhh that’s some good stuff. Smiles!

        • Reply Debbie December 31, 2011 at 5:28 pm

          Kristian — just you and Him…sounds like a “more than enough” comb. God uses others in our lives and we do need our sisters and brohters but without a doub our reliance is to be on Him and His leading. It is so exciting growing in that dependance. May you be super duper blessed as you take this “new” adventure this year. Stay deep in His word and you are in for a treat!


          • Kristian January 1, 2012 at 1:53 pm

            Hey Debbie,

            Thanks so much for the reasurrance (I know I spelled that wrong). I needed much to hear that. I am excited 2012 is finally here and awaiting to continue my journey. Smile:)

  • Reply Rhonda J. Smith December 30, 2011 at 9:47 pm


    Like you I had some great challenges this year, like my book contract negotiations coming to an abrupt end and my mom being hospitalized almost two months, yet in spite of these and other challenges I’m so thankful for two new writing opportunities this year (including becoming the parenting columnist for EEW Magazine) and two major developments in my character: 1) becoming unceasingly grateful even amidst challenges and 2) finally releasing anxiety as evidenced by me no longer holding my breath.

    Happy New Year, Kim. I praise God for your witness no matter what you are going through. You are an inspiration. I believe God is setting you up for something great in 2012.

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate December 31, 2011 at 12:16 am

      Rhonda, I didn’t know your book contract negotiations came to an abrupt end…and I know that had to be tough dealing with your mom in the hospital for two months…wow. Praise God that you’re able to see what God has done in your life in the midst of all of that. How AWESOME that you’ve been freed from anxiety! And I love what you’re doing at EEW Magazine. What a blessing that God opened up those writing opportunities. He is so faithful. I praise God for your witness as well. You are willing to take a stand, which is not easy, but for that, you will be blessed! Happy New Year, Sis!

      • Reply Rhonda J. Smith December 31, 2011 at 3:35 pm

        Thanks, as always, Kim for your encouragement. Mine is a journey that I would not have asked for but am glad I am on. Wow, I did just type that and I mean it. :).

    • Reply Kristian December 31, 2011 at 12:29 am

      Hi Rhonda, so excited for you for growing in the things that God has for you. I looked at your website and love the Post on Cooking Greens. The funny thing is that we are having them for New Years. My dad makes them every year and I’m excited this year to be in the kitchen and maybe give him some pointer. :) Love your website…..Happy New Year 2012

      • Reply Rhonda J. Smith December 31, 2011 at 3:44 pm

        Thanks so much, Kristian. I love when saints rejoice with me! And you stopped by my blog! Thanks a bunch. I’m glad you found something meaningful. Let me know how it goes if you decide to give your dad some pointers on HIS greens LOL. Watch out, you know cooks can be territorial. :).

        • Reply Kristian January 1, 2012 at 1:56 pm

          Ha……Rhonda, you must know my dad, because territory is his name. Lol. He actually started cooking them early, early this morning so I was asleep. He used this huge pot which is his gumbo pot, so I knew then there was no tellnig him anything :). But now I know for myself how to cook them. Thanks a bunch!

  • Reply Kim Teamer December 31, 2011 at 8:06 am

    Hey Kim!

    Wahoo, you’re back. And howdy to all my colorful sisters. It’s always great to connect with you.

    Add my name to the list regarding blog withdrawal. I was right there with you all. Ha! I checked the blog so frequently that I had to laugh at myself. I guess that goes to show you how much we have need of inspiring lessons, words of encouragement, godly fellowship, and the list goes on and on.

    A year in review. Woo! So much to that one. Thanks for this meaty lesson, Kim. ;-) Reflection is therapeutic. Healing. Good and grace-filled. I love it!

    This year for me has been, as you know, the year of my BIG stretch. I never knew I needed that much pulling. It’s like I told my husband, it brought things to the surface from within that I didn’t know existed inside of myself. But God knew. He knew I needed the stretching. I thank Him for that, and I want all of you to hear it. (I so get David’s words now. It’s personal. You know?)

    I can recall praying, asking the LORD to break me, to burn off the fluff, to help me trust Him more. (Any of that sound familiar?) I wanted God to take me to deeper levels of Truth. He faithfully did that and more in 2011.

    From my heart to His heart, everything I’ve learned about myself and about my God is for His glory and for my good. Stretch marks and all, I PRAISE Him!

    At year’s end and into my new beginnings, I am thankful for the hard lessons, the hallelujah moments, and for the old and new friends and family I have been blessed to connect with in the faith.

    Love to you all in Christ. May God inspire you continually, bless you abundantly, and grace you eternally. My prayers are for you and for your works for the LORD’s kingdom purposes.

    Kim T.

    • Reply Rhonda J. Smith December 31, 2011 at 4:49 pm


      I don’t think I’ve ever commented on any of your comments but I had to today. You are a deep thinker, gracious and an amazing writer. It’s been awhile since I’ve stopped by your site. When I was there I noticed how you share so much about others and I find myself wanting to hear more of your voice, your writing. Maybe you write more now than you did in the past(I’m going to go to your blog to see) or maybe you don’t write more because God hasn’t guided you in that direction. I say all that to say I love your writing and want to read more of it. I hope God grants you the opportunity in 2012 to share more of your amazing talent.

      • Reply Kim January 2, 2012 at 8:58 pm


        You are kind. Thank you for your encouragement. Sincerely, I am appreciative. God is up to something in my life. All I ever wanted with my writing, I gave up to Him (which was a huge deal). But you know, He continues to amaze me with His open doors. I say that to say this…as He directs me, I write. What He writes on my heart, I share. And as I share, I pray He is glorified. That has become the greatest open door and my best writing. Maybe that means nothing on one level, but for me, it has proven to be that special something. Let’s see what He pens for my life in this new season.
        Please allow me to encourage you as well. Congratulations on your new assignment. I look forward to hearing how our Father blesses you to bless others through His blessed communications. Hold on to your pen (okay…keyboard)! He’s got a story to tell and He has chosen you to do it.

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate January 1, 2012 at 9:47 am

      Kim, I’m starting off “amening” Rhonda’s comment about your deep thinking/writing. I’ve told you before, but it’s great to start a new year off with affirmation, right? :) I read this as we were about to take-off from Hawaii and couldn’t comment. Of course, that meant the whole day passed, what with several hours in the air with two flights. All that to say, I was thinking about your post even though I couldn’t comment right away. Being able to follow what the Lord has done in your life this year…the BIG stretch…has blessed me tremendously. I don’t know exactly what was happening in your life, but I can identify with “it brought things to the surface from within that I didn’t know existed inside of myself.” It amazes me that so much exists within us that we don’t know is there…”the heart is deceitful”…and when God shows us what’s there, it becomes quite a journey, always for our good. “I can recall praying, asking the LORD to break me, to burn off the fluff, to help me trust Him more”…YES, YES, YES! I’ve prayed the same, and He IS faithful to answer. It’s hard and it hurts, but I join with you in PRAISING Him for “the hard lessons, the hallelujah moments, and for the old and new friends and family I have been blessed to connect with in the faith”…amen and amen. Can’t thank you enough, Kim, for the thoughtful wisdom you bring, the heartfelt encouragement, and the transparency of what God is doing in your life right now. May the Lord continue to use you mightily as He takes you from glory to glory, transforming you into the image of His Son. Happy New Year, my friend!

      • Reply Kim January 2, 2012 at 9:00 pm


        Kim, you always bless me. Thank you for allowing me to be wordy and raw.

        Hugs and Grace,
        (the other) Kim T.

    • Reply Kristian January 1, 2012 at 2:02 pm

      Hi Kim T! I miss ya girl….. Your comment was like a WOW for me. I’m actually in the same place, a place where God is breaking me, a placce where he is killing this soulish man inside of me. The funny part is I asked, begged, pleaded for him to break me, now that it’s happening, can I say OUCH! It hurts so bad but then I look at my friends, who have the things that I so desire the most but I look and see they weren’t broken in the process, so they don’t know how to walk in those things that they were given. (Hope that makes sense, I’m kinda wordy, lol) But just to know someone like you, who survived the beating and breaking, amakes me wanna keep enduring. Thanks sister for your encouragement. Much Love! And Smiles:)

  • Reply Janelle Hunter December 31, 2011 at 9:04 pm

    I’m thankful that God spared my life throughout this year. As I review this year in my mind, I think of different situations where God was preparing me to come out of my “I don’t need the grace of God” mindset, into an understanding that only HE could save me…not my good works or my “innocence”. Earlier this year, I was living in NoVa (Woodbridge, VA <—not far from your hometown, Kim <3), and God brought me from there to Hampton, VA within a matter of a few months. Painful, crazy situations that I put myself in, unnecessary changes that I put myself through…words can't express, but God was right there. I miss Woodbridge, but I know I'm in Hampton Roads for a reason. God has spoken to me in a clearer voice toward the end of the year…it's like He's given me more responsibility. I've gotten to a point where I've started looking at what I'm "missing" rather than at what I will gain by being with God, being obedient, praying/fasting, etc. And I've already talked to God about it. Somehow, in His great, unending mercy, He's still keeping me. There's SO very much more I could say, but pre-lastly…I thank God for growing me up to a point where I can enjoy/love/embrace my family forreal…I couldn't always say this. Thank God for being able to recognize growth. :) and lastly, thank God for all you beautiful sisters on here. Women who've known all kinds of pain, sorrows, and happy things too. I'm grateful for God leading me to this blog. He has every little detail of our lives already worked out, isn't that crazy amazing? And to think, we get to meet this great big God one day, if we don't lose sight. Well, it's 10 pm here in NC (came here to visit my family). I hope to see you all in 2012! <3 <3 <3

    • Reply Kristian January 1, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Hey Sis, So glad that you made it back home safely, and girl you know that I’m rejoicing with you about being able to “enjoy/love/embrace your family forreal”. I’m super de duper excited! I was in the same boat, but God has actually got me living with these ppl again, aint he funny? Lol. Yes and I’m excited to meet this great big God too. I mean, he’s daddy. I cannot wait to sit on his lap and ask him a thousand questions, and of course give him praise. It’s funny, because the other day he was telling me all the things he was gonna do in my life, and he told me “Don’t forget about me Kristian, becuause you’re a daddy’s girl”. Now, how CUTE of him!!! Like I could forget about him, and all that he’s done, doing, and will do for me. I praise him with you and am happy for you. Oh yeah, Happy New Years too! Love Ya!

    • Reply Kim Cash Tate January 1, 2012 at 5:27 pm

      Janelle, I know there’s so much of your story I don’t know, but WOW…what you’ve shared makes it so obvious that God has been doing a tremendous work in your life and heart. Didn’t know you were in NoVa! :) I’m very familiar with the Hampton area also, since I used to hang out with my friends at Hampton during college. ;) You know I know what it’s like to be in a place you’re not crazy about. But praise God you ALREADY know God has a purpose, and you’re growing like crazy where He’s planted you. All of this at such a young age…:) I am so excited about the ways in which God is going to use you and your testimony to minister to others. And it’s SUCH a blessing that you can “enjoy/love/embrace” your family because you will have an impact on them as a result. Loving them is a tremendous witness to them. “I’m grateful for God leading me to this blog”…and I’m grateful that He led you here! He has uniquely shaped this community with all of our experiences and allowed us to share the journey with one another. Yes, that’s “crazy amazing!” :) I hope to see you in 2012 too! Happy New Year, sis!

  • Reply Heather January 4, 2012 at 8:32 am

    I love your perspective. You are so right about the things that we learn through disappointments. Happy New Year!

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